There is are a great many misconceptions surrounding the so-called "Victorian Era," so many that debunking even a few would take quite a while. For one thing, the good Queen herself was noted for knowing her own mind and not being too hesitant about taking her own course. Russian Czar Nicholas II, for instance, once commented on the outbreak of World War I and about the Kaiser, to whom he was related through Victoria. He observed that Victoria, had she been alive at the start of the war, "would never have permitted it."
In any event Victoria was deeply devoted to her husband, Prince Albert and mourned for him after his early death for the rest of her life--over the objections of most of her ministers. She did, however, develop an unusually relationship with a fellow named John Brown, who was a "ghillie," a term used in Scotland for a professional hunting and fishing guide. Over the years Brown became the Queen's confidant, a fact that has been the source of considerable discussion then and since.
Once a fellow ghillie was addressing Brown, shortly after the royal party had arrived at Balmoral.
"You must see a lot 'o grand folk in London, John," remarked the fellow.
"Me and the Queen pays no attention to them," was the robust response.
----------------A Final Thought ...
"I donít dislike babies, though I think very young ones rather disgusting."
- Victoria (1819Ė1901), Queen of Great Britain and Ireland. Letter, 8 May 1872, to her daughter, the Crown Princess of Prussia